"Since you manage 250 people, maybe you can give some insight on how you make them all happy with an example of "there is 1 promotion to give this fiscal year" who does it goto? Not an easy decision, and I'm sure there will be at least 1 other person that thinks they deserve it more. "
Ok I hope this makes sense what I am about to say. Beside what I do for a living, I also coach kids sports, my team this year are 12-13 year olds, what a fun age , blah.
Anyways, I do things differently then alot of people, you see managers or coaches act like the tough guys, hard headed, some are not approachable, but in most cases people see them as the boss. I dont do things like that, I get them to see me as the leader by leading them, not by my title, case in point my team.
I have had some parents come to me and say, you need to show more discipline with your team, they run around and do what they want.
Well some parents choose to see that, but what I do is treat everyone with respect and as EQUAL, doesnt matter that I am 35 and they are 12, when I am with them we are equals. I tell them not to call me coach, I am just someone with experience that is there to help them. I teach them to be self sufficient teach them to teach themselves. So what do i usually get, I get some that dont listen and do what they want, but then I know these kids are not serious about learning the sport, they are there for another reason. The other kids, I give them all the slack in the world, but I find when I show them this respect and freedom, they always listen to everything I say, they do everything I ask, and they treat me with respect back.
I consider alot of my team as friends even though they are 12, and by not giving my self the "coach" term, I show that I am just one member of the team that has a specific job on that team. I usually have alot of the kids even come to me about problems with their lifes.
So, as a leader, I show respect and dont act like I am superior, I give slack and let people go at their own pace, in return I get respect, committment and common courtesy back.
I treat my employees the same way, makes it easy to see the employess that need to look for another job, because when you are treated this way and cant show the same respect back, then you are not worth the time.
I think thats where the ls stuff comes in, people need to be shown respect, and this is one thing hnmls dont show, they have no respect for other peoples time or real life, the demand things, they run like a dictatorship, and this is where all the drama comes from.
I recently got kicked from a hnmls, why, cause i said along time ago, I like to help with stuff, but, I dont want any drops or gil or anthing, just want to have fun with my friends and enjoy the game, but what I dont want is to be force to attend and drop my plans in the game when the ls shouts.
Now some will say, well if you had too many people like that you coudl never do events, I say thats not true, if you had a huge ls, that there was no pressure, you would have people to many events, no complainging and just people that would be happy if they got a drop, if not, oh well, its just a game.
So basically I got kicked cause i liked to help when I could, and expected nothing in return. This is where the game has gone. And that answers your question, how do you determine who gets the drop, well if people had the right attitude it woudlnt matter, would just be a free lot.
