OK, time to put on my serious hat for a post.
You want to engage the community, but still let out our sarcastic side, see
here. This is not some grand social experiment. You're covering your *** for people realizing what you are: A self-aggrandizing *******. You are the all wise, all knowing perfect one who has provided us the template for discussion/behavior. We are all just peons and small minded fools for not reading your massive repetition of what we all know already.
Face it, you posted this with the intent of provoking this reaction, not in some altruistic endeavor to better the game or the community.
And let me counter all of your points:
- There will always be selfish idiots that ruin people's fun
- There will always be judgmental idiots that will set unreachable standards
- There will always be people who steal to get ahead
- There will always be people who are lazy and will buy gil to get ahead
- There will always be blind invites and lazy party leaders
- The reason these will always remain the same is that you cannot force change on a person, change has to come from within the person
And finally, this is a video game. The reason people are mocking you, flaming you, and otherwise making fun of you is that while the rest of us take this as a game, you're apparently hellbent on making it some form of life-altering experience. Have I made friends in the game? Yes, but the same would be true for any game, chat room, forum or other means of interpersonal communication.
Everything you've said in your rant has been said before, will be said again, and will be treated with equal disdain then because people such as yourself fail to understand that the reasons for your bad experiences comes as much from your unrealistic expectation of human behavior as it does from treating a recreational enjoyment as a paradigm for an ideal society.
My tl;dr: Go outside, get a life, and play games for fun, not for some form of replacement for achieving something with your life.