So you think shes a girlFollow

Claimed in the name of all the "girls" I have cybered with!

LOL.

Yeah. It's creepy, yeah. Wouldn't do that. It's kinda odd, but there's no real problem besides the "ew..." factor,if you don't give him/her/it anything. If you treat them the same as anyone else.

For those struggling with this concept...


To not be ripped off by a man in disguise, follow these steps. Start at the top, if the problem persists, go to the bottom.

Keep it in your pants.

Cold shower.

Change all female models to galkas.

Cold shower with active electronic device.

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 /    {Uschi}      ~Taru female. Green hair ftw!    \ 
/  (70WHM/35BLM)   ~Social LS: JokersWild <3         \ 
|  (30BRD/15WHM)   ~Dynamis LS: Kyte                 | 
\  I like CoP too much.                  Sea+Sky: O / 
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You know, that attitude really isn't any better. As annoying as it is being a target for the Junior Interweb Horndog Patrol, having people treat you, by default, like some kind of charlatan isn't exactly a summer hayride either.

I can't tell you how many times this has played out on various games. One particularly jarring episode happened when I used to play EVEOnline:

<CorpLeader> Hey, everyone, welcome LeetPilot82, our newest member.
<CorpGuy1> Hi, LeetPilot. Welcome to the corp :D
<CorpGuy2> Heya!
<LeetPilot82> hi lol
<Me> Hi there :D
<CorpGuy3> Welcome :)
<CorpLeader> You joined at a good time, we're just about to head out on a mining op.
<LeetPilot82> k neet
<CorpLeader> Hey, Mindel, I hate to bug him, but could you ask your husband if he wouldn't mind bringing his barge out?
<Me> No problem. He's just futzing around out back anyway :)
<LeetPilot82> lol husband?
<CorpGuy2> I can fly the barge if he's busy, I just need to borrow it. :D
<Me> Yeah, my husband flies too. :D
<CorpLeader> Mindel's hubby is one of our most skilled miners, actually.
<LeetPilot82> u just run 2 accts
<CorpGuy3> Mindel, you gonna run escort again?
<Me> Sure, I don't mind.
<LeetPilot82> Midnel just runs 2 accts on his comp lol
<Me> >.>
<CorpGuy2> Leet, she doesn't.
<LeetPilot82> I bet he just scamms ur isk
<CorpLeader> Leet, seriously, she and her husband are on teamspeak all the time. They're two people, believe me.
<LeetPilot82> k, watever lol
<CorpGuy1> Drop it dude, it's not funny.
<LeetPilot82> just sayin, girl dont play this game. its prolly the dude's gf or sister or watever on ts :p

Eventually the other members of the corp managed to convince him that my husband and I are actually two unique people, and not one nutcase with amazing voice talents. Of course, after that, it was a different brand of annoying. He would object to my running escort on missions (protecting the mining crew from pirates and other miscreants), refused to take my advice on tactics and ship fittings (despite being a somewhat accomplished thorax pilot with lots of pvp experience). Oh well, he didn't last much time in that corp. There were two other women in the corp, and they all got them same welcome. Enough was enough, and the leader fired the bum ;D

The whole "OMG TEHRE R NO GRLIS ON TEH INTARNETS" thing is as annoying to me as the "HEY UR A GURL LETZ CYBAR!1!" thing. I'm here to play. I don't hide my gender, but I don't shove it in your face either. How about we just act like adults and not make a big production out of everything? Treat people as they treat you, and never go wrong. If they're honest and kind, be the same way in return, and don't worry so much about their secrets and motivations.

What the hell is wrong with you?

Yeah, Mindel, what's wrong with you ?

Try to be nice for once !

Edited, Mon Jun 5 16:59:32 2006 by Bluuug

I'm reminded of a classic bash.org quote here...



As much as a nuisance as it is to have people assume you're a man by default, 90% of the time their assumption is actually correct--there are entirely too many crossdressers on the internet looking for free handouts and the comedy goldmine of trolling horny losers. I'm pretty dense against most forms of *************** and my handy "man-dar" hasn't failed me yet...

On the other hand, I do, in fact, play a female character in-game, although that's partly vanity and partly comedy gold; it always amuses me when a girl solos a Quadav double her size with nothing but her fists, and I can actually wear a subligar without getting a CHR-10000 stat. Bulges {No thanks.}.

you TOTALLY misunderstand why the male players are giving the female players all that stuff.

No, I am just trying to point out that as long as you guys keep giving so-called girls stuff trying to get p***y then you're going to keep having guys conning you. Then you get all upset and whiny and I'm frankly tired of hearing it.

Nez

Smelly wrote:



This basically sums up my thinking on the issue. Basically the OP has proven he's a horny(/shocked) 13 year old who fails at life. I honestly don't know what you expected when you came on here to post this but I'll tell you honestly I find you to be trash. Coming on her and posting this nonsense without a shred of proof and using the people you suspect(THIS word is key) of "lying" real game names is pretty low. The WORST part is you tried to invade their privacy in REAL FRIGGING LIFE. I really hope your parents find out what kind of stuff you're up to and slag your PC.

P.S. To ANY other horny freaks out there FFXI is NOT your personal dating service and going up to someone in the game and saying "do u want to cyberz?" is NOT a pick up line. If you did that in real life ANY woman who doesn't want you to pay for it would throw their drink in your face or slap you.

I think this PA comic sums it up quite nicely:

http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19

fixed

^_^

/sigh the flames keep comming.
While I do belive there is a Alexander/Noroelle and I have found proof that there is. I cannot prove there is no Alendria/Anuril though I'll let you come to your own conclusions.
I do believe this is how I started this thread.

I don't wan't to defend myself all day about this post. Have I wasted your time today? More then likely.
Again, I posted this for awareness.I am warning XI and Lakshmi of this type of person who gives real women players a bad name.This is also the type person/player that will use you for what your worth. IE Gil and items.

I work hard on my charecter and I like to keep it real in game aswell as in real life. I've met alot of my linkshell mates in real life and have bonded emotionaly with people I play XI with. Hell, I even met my boyfriend on XI and not only have we met IRL but we also plan to live with eachother.

I think what bites my *** the most is that this person led me on to belive that he was a woman. Not only did I bond with her but I shared information with her I might not have done knowing she was a guy. My friendship was broken.

Am I the asshat? Yes indeed I am. I let my defence down and trusted in someone I met online.
Have I gone too far by checking my intuition? I don't believe I have. As a woman I always trust my intution. I feel better now that I know the truth and will no longer be so trustfull in people I meet online.

/rant on
As for you Alla junkies that would rather flame me then take a step back and put yourself in my shoes I have 3 simple letters for you GFY.
/rant off

You don't have to be a horny young guy to dislike people who misrepresent themselves as something they very much aren't online, LadyAjana. I'm not all that young, I'm not a guy, and only my husband needs to know about the third--yet I thoroughly mistrust people who create entire fake identities for themselves in real life. Their motives become suspect; why would someone pretend to be a woman to the point of having a fake identity and stolen pictures?

Women talk about different things to other women than they do to men, sometimes; I'm sure it's the same for men. It's almost like eavesdropping to pretend to something you aren't in RL--and remember, I'm not talking about roleplaying here, I'm talking about creating an entire fake "real" persona?

And it's not just gender, either. It's wrong to misrepresent yourself as much older if you're young or much younger if you're older. Yet I've known people who've done just that--as well as people who've pretended to have dire illnesses when they're perfectly healthy but just want sympathy, people who've pretended they were a player's brother while their fictitious sister, the "real" [Charactername], was in a terrible auto accident and was left in a coma, and other unsavory things.

There's just something...off about someone who does that kind of thing. If you don't want to share much of your real self, that's great; if you do, though, it should be your real self, because otherwise there are some unpleasant motives there.